Out of the mouths of babes

Every once in a while, your child will say or do something so profound, you can't help but stop and smile at how much they have grown or how their mind works.
The other day my 4 year old decided to gather my various large decorations and place them all under the Christmas tree.  She fiddled around with them for a while and then stood back and said, "there is 5, NOW they are a family!!" 

Christmas Candy

Wow, a week already huh?  I guess I have been so busy trying to get ready for Christmas that I keep forgetting to make posts. 
One of the things I do to get ready for Christmas is make candy.  We always have toffee, Chex Mix, bon bons, winter strawberries, divinity, fudge, dipped pretzels, peppermint crunch and sometimes other candies as well.  Normally, at the end of the year, all the toffee and Chex Mix is gone and I have had to make more while I have leftovers of the rest of the candy that ends up getting thrown out.  This year I decided there was no point in making all the other candies and I would instead just make 6 batches of Chex Mix and 16 batches of toffee.

You read that right, 16 batches of toffee.  Everyone loves my toffee.  Every year, people ask me for the recipe.  One year I had a lucrative side business going selling tins of it to coworkers.  Yes, it is THAT good.  The only problem with giving my recipe to others is that I can't tell you a temperature to cook it at.  This recipe was passed down by my Grandmother so we all learned how to tell it was done by color and texture.  If you want to give it a try, here is the recipe, along with pictures that might help.

Ingredients:

These are the ingredients for 16 batches

2 sticks salted butter (it HAS to be salted)
1 cup sugar
1 cup slivered almonds
1 Tb white corn syrup
1 Tb water
3 full size Hershey chocolate bars

The first step is to take a sheet of wax paper and put it on a cookie sheet.

Put the butter, sugar, almonds, corn syrup and water into a sauce pan.

Turn the heat on high and begin stirring.  This is the only "hard" part, you have to stir it constantly.  I timed it and it takes roughly 15 minutes on my stove before the toffee is ready.  The next few pictures will show the changes in color and texture that the toffee goes through until it is ready.

Since it is somewhat difficult to gauge the color when you are staring at it the whole time, the trick I was taught was to look at the color in the bottom of the pan as your spoon scrapes it.  When it starts to turn a a golden caramel color, it is time to pull it off.  When you pull it off the stove it will continue cooking so if you wait until the whole batch is that color, you will have burned toffee.

Continue stirring as you take the pan off the stove and quickly pour the toffee onto the wax paper, spreading it out to the edges as quickly as possible because it hardens rapidly.

To give you an idea of what I mean about it continuing to cook, the time lapse between the last cooking picture and the picture when I am spreading it on the wax paper is 44 seconds.  This shot of the pan also shows it continuing to cook. 

Unwrap 3 Hershey bars and lay them on top of the toffee.

Wait a minute or two for the chocolate to melt and then spread it around.

 

Lift the wax paper out of the pan and I always lay it on a towel to keep my counters from getting damaged since it is so hot.

Now for the other hard part...waiting for it to cool.  The toffee itself cools off rather quickly.  The chocolate on the other hand, it takes roughly 24 hours to harden back up.  Don't try to speed the time up by putting it in the refrigerator because all it will do is create white spots all over the chocolate.  It won't change the flavor but it does look unappealing.  Once your chocolate is finally hardened back up, it is ready!  You can tell the chocolate is hardened because the gloss will be gone and also, it won't leave a fingerprint if you push on it.

Simply break your toffee into bite sized pieces and store in your preferred method.  Makes great gifts and I always have it for my Christmas parties and New Years parties too!

This is NOT 16 batches, this is only 4 batches

A few tips for the toffee making novice.

* DON'T GIVE UP!!  It is highly unlikely that you will make a perfect batch of toffee right out of the gate each and every time.  Some you will pull to soon, some you will pull to late, don't worry about it!  Unless you wait for the entire batch to be black before pulling, it will probably be edible.

*CLEAN QUICKLY!  While you are waiting for the chocolate to melt, go fill your pan up with hot water and let it sit in the sink.  The toffee will dissolve in the water.  If you wait to clean your pan, I hope you have a powerful sander to remove the dried and fully hardened toffee!

*DON'T JUDGE THE CHOCOLATE BY LOOKS ALONE!  A mistake I made for many years.  "Hey, that chocolate looks ready, I can break it up now."  Only to find that almost every piece of toffee has my fingerprint imprinted in the chocolate.  Again, not appealing when giving it to others.

*DON'T WAIT TO LONG TO REMOVE FROM WAX PAPER!  Again, ask me how I know!  If you wait to long, the wax paper will mysteriously meld into your toffee and then you are left attempting to peel small pieces of wax paper off the back of every single piece of toffee which, incidentally, is not as fun you might think it is.

*HAVE FUN! There is nothing like seeing the joy on others faces when they eat some of your homemade candy.

***Texas Gem is not responsible for any expanding waistlines that come from following this recipe***

The 5 Best Things About Parenting One Gender

As promised last week in this post, here are 5 of the most awesome things about parenting the same gender.

1. You know what to expect.  Changing a diaper on a boy? Yeah, you already know how to deal with that.  A girl getting her first period?  Yeah, you got that.  Anything that is uniquely gender dependent, you have already dealt with or will deal with on the first one.

2. Hand me downs!  We have not had to buy any clothes yet and my oldest is 4 years old.  Don't get me wrong, we definitely HAVE purchased clothes for them but we haven't HAD to.  Everyone was so excited when our first was born that we were flooded with so many clothes, she didn't even get to wear all of them before she would outgrow them.  Thanks to parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends, the girls get new clothes on Christmas, their birthday or just because and every article of clothing my Monkey has outgrown, has moved directly to my Monster's closet and when Monster outgrows it, it goes to my Munchkin.

3. Shared space.  While I would love for each of my children to have their own bedroom, they could all share one room if necessary and it wouldn't be a problem.  Children of opposite genders can share when they are small but it becomes awkward and not very practical as they reach puberty.  Bath time is also easy and even as they get older, it won't be a problem.  If Monster is taking a shower and Monkey needs to get ready, she can go in and use the sink.  As a teenage girl, I was left banging on the door waiting for my brother to get out of the bathroom so I could get ready.

4. Instant, lifelong friends!  There is an amazing bond that develops between sisters (and brothers), having someone there who is in the trenches with you, going through all the same difficult changes that come from growing up, that knows everything about you, and my daughters get to experience that.  Don't get me wrong, I love my brother to death, but I always wondered what it would be like to have a sister.  Mr. Gem only has a sister, so he always wondered what it would be like to have a brother and when we found out Monster was going to be a girl, we both got so excited that our girls were getting something we always wanted!

5.  No opposite gender kids in the house!  One thing I am really excited about in having all girls is that when they are teenagers, I don't have to worry about their brother's friends always wanting to stay the night to be near the cute girls.  I could easily see it the other way too.  All the girls wanting to stay so they could flirt etc. with the brothers.


There are so many wonderful facets in having all one gender.  My husband, in having all girls, gets to be absolutely adored by 4 girls and if we had all boys, I would be the Queen to 4 guys.  My husband never has to worry about the girls raiding his closet and if I had all boys, I would never have to worry about going in my room to find my favorite pair of red heels missing (sadly, my 2 year old is already a closet raider!) I can't help but think if we had a boy, he probably would NOT like having to be dragged around shopping, or going to his sisters gymnastics competition and if we had all boys and one girl, she probably would NOT like having to be dragged around to his sports or having him and his friends pick on her (I know I didn't like it).  So to those wondering, no, we DON'T regret not having a boy just like my friends with boys DON'T regret not having a girl.

EDITED TO ADD: I just remembered one other awesome thing about having all one gender!  When you are frazzle brained and the kids are being crazy, you don't have to remember names!  Just say "GIRLS, STOP IT!!!"  As I just did right after I published the original post! 

Parenting the Same Gender

Yesterday while I was out shopping, I ran into an acquaintance I hadn't seen in a while who has 3 boys.  While we were catching up, we started talking about the various comments we have both heard regarding having all one gender and how infuriating they are.
So, for those who might be wondering, here are 5 things you should never say to someone parenting all one gender, unless of course you really don't like them and you simply want to piss them off.

*for simplicity sake, I will write these from my perspective but feel free to substitute boy, girl, husband, wife, etc. as appropriate*

1. While they are pregnant- So are you hoping for a boy? or Maybe you will get lucky and have a boy this time!
 I always answered this question with, "yeah or maybe I will get lucky and have a girl!"

2. Oh your poor husband, stuck in a house full of girls.  I wonder what he did to deserve that!
Ummm, obviously he did something right to be BLESSED with having 3 wonderful girls who completely adore him.

3. So are you going to try again for a boy?
 Oh, because apparently a family isn't "complete" until you have at least one of each. 

4. I feel sorry for you! or I couldn't do it!
Okay, why?  What is so terribly wrong with having all your children be the same gender?  When did our society get this crazy idea in their heads that you have to have both?

5. We want to have 3 kids, but if we have 2 girls we are stopping there.  We don't want to risk having 3 girls.
Do you have even the remotest idea of precisely how offensive that remark is to me, a mother to 3 wonderful little girls?  As my friend said, "This isn't Burger King!  You don't get to have it your way!" 


The underlying theme and feeling that we, as parents of same gender children, get when you make comments like this is that there is something wrong with one of my children.  I especially hate it when people make these remarks in front of my children.  Mr. Gem and I didn't find out what Munchkin was until the delivery room so I constantly got asked, while out with my daughters, what I was having and when I would say I don't know people would ALWAYS remark with number 1 up there.  All I could think was, "how would I feel if I were standing here and someone asked my mom that question?" and my answer was always invariably, "well, I would feel like there was something wrong with me or something wrong with being a girl since everyone is saying mom and dad should have a boy.  Should I have been a boy?  Would things be better if I were?"

Now I am sure it would be easy to write off those feelings as being pregnant and hormonal except that I have felt and still do feel that way even when I am not pregnant and the other parents of same gender children that I know share the sentiment.  I realize that people just don't think about it and they certainly aren't trying to be cruel when they make these comments but it doesn't take away the fact that you are suggesting or implying, many times to my children's faces, that something is wrong with them, especially the youngest because obviously, mom and dad were "trying for a boy" when they conceived you and you didn't come out right.

Do we sometimes wonder what it would be like to have one of the other gender?  Of course we do, but that doesn't mean we would trade what we have for the world.  I wonder what it would be like to be royalty as well but if someone came tomorrow and offered me the chance to join the royal family I wouldn't even dream about taking it.  I love my life, I love my kids and I am blessed beyond all measure to have what I have.
 
I will do another post in a few days (here it is) highlighting the best things about having all one gender.  So tell me, if you have all one gender, what are the worst comments you have heard about it?

Oven Roasted Brisket and Leftovers

My family loves brisket, probably because we are true born and bred Texans.  We have always used the same recipe, passed on from my grandmother and I once again made it for Thanksgiving.

Brisket:
A trimmed brisket
celery salt
onion powder
garlic powder
meat tenderizer
Lawry's seasoned salt
Worcestershire sauce
liquid smoke (I use mesquite flavor)

Liberally sprinkle both sides of your brisket with all the powders and salts, making sure to rub them in.  Place brisket in a large bag and add a 1/2 cup of Worcestershire sauce and 1 Tb of liquid smoke.  Place in the refrigerator and marinate for 24-48 hours or at the very least overnight.
Preheat oven to 225F, place brisket along with juices in a roasting pan, fat side down, cover with foil and cook for 6-8 hours.



Yes, you can cook it at a higher temperature but for those of you have never cooked a brisket before, the key is low and slow.  Brisket is naturally a very tough cut of meat, the key to making it juicy and tender is to cook for a long time at a low temperature.  On Thanksgiving, I cooked it at 325F for 6 hours since I was cooking other things in the oven as well and it worked just fine but if you want the really juicy, really tender, falls apart meat, cook it low.

When you pull it out of the oven, the pan will be full of all the tasty juices.  For heavens sake, DON'T throw them out!  Skim all the fat off the juices and use the juice as a gravy.  You don't need to worry about making it a proper gravy by thickening it, just put it in a gravy boat to serve with the brisket.

When you have eaten your fill of brisket, you will undoubtedly have leftovers.  Hmm, what to do with brisket leftovers?  You can eat it just like it is but what fun is that?  Here are a few of the recipes I like to make with leftover brisket.

LEFTOVER BRISKET RECIPES

Fajitas:
Leftover brisket
Onions
Peppers
Flour tortillas
Shredded cheese
Sour cream
Guacamole

Heat up some oil in a pan over medium heat.  Toss in your sliced onions and peppers and saute until tender.  Add some sliced brisket and some of the brisket gravy (you did save it didn't you?).  Serve with warm flour tortillas, shredded cheese, sour cream and guacamole.

Chopped beef sandwiches:
Leftover brisket
Onions
Your favorite BBQ sauce
Leftover dinner rolls or hamburger buns

Shred some brisket and throw it in a pan with some chopped onions and your favorite barbeque sauce.  Cook over medium heat until heated through and the onions are soft.  If you have leftover dinner rolls, slice them in half, brush lightly with olive oil and grill them until nice and brown.  Top with your brisket mixture and you have some tasty, chopped beef sliders.  If you have no dinner rolls, you can use hamburger buns.

Sheperds pie:

Leftover brisket
Sliced carrots
Onions
Leftover mashed potatoes OR
Russet potatoes
heavy cream
sour cream
butter
salt
paprika

Preheat broiler to high.
Chop up some brisket, throw it in a pan with some of the gravy.  Chop up some onions and carrots and throw them in as well.  Let them cook over medium heat, stirring occasionally, until carrots are soft.
*If you have leftover mashed potatoes you can skip this step.* Peel and cube some Russet potatoes and throw them in a pot with some water on high until they boil.  Allow them to boil for 10-20 minutes or until soft and ready for mashing.  Drain the water off.  Mash the potatoes, add heavy cream, sour cream, butter and salt and mix together.
Spoon your meat and vegetable mixture into a pie pan or casserole dish, top with your mashed potatoes, using a fork to rough up the top which will give you a lot of nice browned places.  Sprinkle with paprika and place under broiler on high about 10 minutes or until the potatoes are nice and browned.

Brisket pockets:

Leftover brisket
Shredded cheddar cheese
one package refrigerated crescent rolls
butter
Italian bread crumbs
sour cream

Preheat oven to 375F.  Once again chop up your brisket and heat it up with some of the gravy.  Unroll your crescent rolls and place them on a cookie sheet.  I would recommend spraying the cookie sheet with nonstick spray as I had a little bit of a tough time getting them off the sheet after cooking.
Take one triangle and top with about a tablespoon of chopped brisket.
Put some shredded cheese on the brisket.  I was out of cheddar so I used colby jack.

Fold over the long part of the triangle and press the bottom edge down.

Fold the short part of the triangle over to cover the larger part.

Repeat steps until you have all 8 filled and folded.

Brush with some melted butter, don't worry about keeping it just on the crescent roll part, it is perfectly fine if it gets on the filling as well.
Sprinkle liberally with the Italian bread crumbs.

Bake for 15 minutes at 375F until nice and browned.  Serve with sour cream for dipping.

So there are a few of my recipes.  What about you?  Do you have any recipes to share using leftover brisket?  Leave a comment below and let me know!